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A tragic loss

I wrote that last post much later than I should have, but I tried to write it as I had intended. Unfortunately, this post involves the death of a young person. Please skip this if you want or need to.

As I mentioned, Ally has gotten really close to all her shipmates. We have been hearing all kinds of fun stories about them and were excited to meet them this summer. Unfortunately, one of them died early Sunday morning.

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The whole time she’s been on the ship and throughout the month she was home, Ally has been telling fun stories about Troy. Troy knew pretty early in childhood that he wanted to be a pirate. I understand he was fourteen when he decided he wanted to work on the Lynx. He dressed as a pirate whether he was on the ship or not. This was his life. He appreciated good rum and good root beer. Ally said Troy would often interrupt her when they were working together to point out a fun bird or a cloud that looked like a dragon. Ally had us mail her tricorn hat to her so she could complete her own outfit to be able to go out dressed appropriately with him. He was well known and well loved on the island.

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Troy was tragically hit by a car and killed early Sunday morning while walking back to the ship. The driver left the scene.

The sailing community and the local community have all rallied around the crew of the Lynx and are being so kind. This is unfortunately not the first time Ally has lost a close friend that was near her age. I’m so grateful she has lovely people to lean on through this.

Troy had so much whimsy, love and life left to give. The knowledge that he was living the life he dreamed of has helped them cope with his loss. There’s a lesson in there, I guess.

Ally the Sailor

Last November, I wrote about Ally’s Fun Adventure where she was asked to help a tall ship off the east coast of the US with a transit and got on a plane the next day. I’ve alluded to this a couple times, but not shared what has happened since.

She originally volunteered for 2 weeks, which would cover the transit from Virginia down to Georgia and then another week or so with local sails near St. Simons Island. By the time they finished the transit and got to Georgia, she had been offered a full time job. This isn’t surprising; this happens pretty regularly when people get to know her. She wasn’t sure what she wanted to do. The atmosphere on the Lynx was different than the Lady Washington and she had been working on plans of her own in Oregon when this all came about. She committed to staying for a month more which had her coming home just a couple days before Christmas. Over that month though, she got to know everyone and also learned that the Lynx would be participating in Sail 250.

Sail 250 is an event to celebrate the 250th anniversary of the founding of America, with tall ships coming from around the world to participate. The Lynx will lead the Eagle into New York harbor on the 4th of July. The opportunity to see so many ships and meet so many fellow sailors is pretty exciting. Ally decided to go back to the ship after Christmas and committed to staying on through the summer season. We are super excited for her to have this experience. We’ll be flying out to New York to see her and the ships ourselves.

She left in early February. They have been doing a bunch of maintenance getting the ship ready for another season. She fixed the flag you’ll see in one of the photos, but she’s also doing a huge amount of sanding, painting, varnishing and oiling. It’s a lot of work but she’s been having a great time working and having fun adventures with the other sailors.

I should have written this post when I originally meant to, about the time she left Oregon.

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Glad to get myself out of the house

I’m now quite adept at postponing the process of making actual plans for things I want to do until they become impossible or prohibitively expensive. It’s gotten to a point where I rather want someone to celebrate with me every time I leave the house for something that isn’t mandatory. This wasn’t always the case and I don’t like it.

However, plans have finally been made. Matt and I will be going to New York in July and PyCon next month in California. Today, for no real reason, I drove myself to a small town at the northern edge of the Olympic Peninsula.

This has all been so much more challenging than I would like, but I’m working on it. Sheesh.

When I asked for a dinner suggestion the person at the front desk of this hotel said, “There’s an Applebee’s and some fast food. This is a retirement community and everything shuts down early so everything else is closed.” Hmm. I managed to find a local cafe, but it turns out they were hosting karaoke. The age of the diners and singers suggested she was right about the retirement community comment. I’ve never seen sober people have so much fun doing karaoke in my life. One man had a train whistle and a harmonica and got the whole restaurant to join him in singing “City of New Orleans”. I’m glad I got out of my house today.

Having acclimated to the new medicine, my sleep schedule has gone back to normal. Today though, is rough.

This weekend was gloriously bright and beautiful but it’s so dark today. The temptation to crawl into bed until the sun comes back is strong.

Am I a bad person for turning on most of the lights?

At a worship service at the Pentagon on March 25, Hegseth asked God for “overwhelming violence of action against those who deserve no mercy.”

Wait, are they calling for violence against the Iranian citizens that were being gunned down for protesting for their own freedom? The ones Trump said he’d save? Or against the still in charge Islamic Regime that Trump is negotiating with?

I have an opinion of my own about who deserves no mercy.

Finishing Ally's Bag

Ally has been asking me to make her a sling bag for a long while. She’s particular about her tastes though and I didn’t want to make her a bag that she wouldn’t use. I finally asked her to choose a pattern from the many she had sent me and then we looked at what vinyl we could use from my stash before heading to the fabric store to buy the rest. We were both super excited about the fabrics she picked out. Unfortunately, I had to order the hardware and it didn’t get her until the day before she left. (I guess I still need to write about that, she’s back on the ship!)

You know that feeling when you want something to be perfect and you’re not sure you’re up to the task? I started panicking about every detail. What if the mix of fabrics is not right? What if I screw up the curves? What if what if what if?

It took me a lot longer to work through that and finish the bag than I would have liked.

However, it’s done and I’m so happy with how it turned out! Matt designed and cut the label on the laser cutter. It definitely elevates the whole project. The bag arrived safely in Georgia this week and Ally loves it! Mission success! Some of her shipmates would like one now too! Ha!

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There was another factor (or two) that slowed me down. They are adorable, but so curious. Using a rotary cutter and having a cat leap from the ironing board to your shoulder is disconcerting. Being in the act of using a sewing machine with the needle bobbing up and down is not the best time to figure out you have a curious cat 2 inches from the needle.

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The pattern was made by Kandou Patterns. The vinyl, zipper and hardware are products from Zipper Valley.

The doctor recommended I start taking some medication to help me feel better (less pain/anxiety). If sleeping all the time counts as feeling better, I guess it works.

I’m crossing my fingers that this gets better, but I’m struggling to keep my eyes open just writing this sentence.

Recent Broadway in Portland shows

For whatever reason, I usually upload these photos to my Shows collection and call it good, but I want to highlight the last two musicals I’ve seen.

The Notebook was included in the regular season tickets for Broadway in Portland and it is the favorite this year for both Matt and I. The way they handled the different timelines was really fun.

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Les Misérables was not part of the regular season, but Ally and I both really wanted to see it. With Ally being out of town, I didn’t plan to get tickets. Then my neighbor asked if I was going after she had gotten a single ticket and I managed to buy a single ticket for the seat right next to her! I’m so glad! The actors, their voices, the sets, the lighting, the music, everything was amazing!

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Who are we?

Today, the President of the United States threatened to kill off an entire civilization that he only recently said he was coming to help. And yet, he’s still in office.

Change in Perspective

A young man on my team at work shared recently that he was waiting to hear if his mom had cancer. Not surprisingly, the fear was evident in his face and his voice. Gratefully, the doctors gave her an “all clear” not too much later. While we talked, I couldn’t help but think about how young he looked. He IS young.

I was his age when I found out my mom had cancer. I didn’t feel young at the time; I very much felt like a fully grown adult who mostly had things figured out. I definitely didn’t. I have wished for more years with my mom a million or so times, but it hit me pretty hard this week how young I really was.

While celebrating my neighbor’s 7th birthday this weekend, with dog treats for the birthday girl and all the good boys and girls walking by and cake and rosé for the adults, this beautiful creature made an appearance.

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Admitting that I'm Failing

I don’t usually post much about my work. I also haven’t been posting here as much as I’d like. Those two things are related.

I joined this company in September to manage a team of engineers. That team has a nice variety of experience levels, backgrounds, interests and skills. They cover the full stack and QA. It’s a good group of people. It is bigger than a 2 pizza team but not too bad. The most obvious challenge the team faces is timezones. We are spread from the west coast of North America to Bosnia. I do 1:1s with folks starting at 7 a.m. for me and team meetings at 8. The people outside of North America log off for the day when those are done. It was a struggle to get going with this schedule, but it’s been working. Living somewhere near the middle would be better. Oregon is not that.

In early November there was a plan to shuffle some folks around so I was expecting to add four more engineers to my team starting in January. This is now way more than a 2 pizza team, but still the same set of time zones.

In the middle of December I got an email announcing that I would be managing a team of engineers in India due to some broader org changes. On paper, this made sense. That team is responsible for a core capability and my other team was so far the only consumer.

You know where it doesn’t make sense? Timezones! Those lovely humans are thirteen and a half hours ahead of me most of the year. I can’t be the kind of manager I want to be for a group of people that the only time we can overlap is for a short window of time in the early morning or late at night.

I’m pushing for them to get a manager that lives a whole lot closer. I’m worried people might question my work ethic, but I’m willing to take that risk. I want them to get a manager that can help them grow just as much as I want my evenings back.

Project Hail Mary

Watched: Project Hail Mary 🍿

Various clubs around the area, including the astronomy club, were offered tickets to an advanced screening of this movie. I was really excited to see this and I enjoyed it as much as I hoped I would.

Photo of an IMAX screen inside a movie theater highlighting the movie Project Hail Mary.

Everyone was warned not to record any part of the movie and then people kept standing in the doorway with some little device that they used to scan people, presumably making sure no one was recording? That was a little weird. Separately, this was my first time going to a movie at the Lloyd Center Regal theater. I don’t know of another IMAX theater in Portland with seats that are so comfortable.

One of the designers my software team works with opened his first PR on Friday. (AI was involved.)

Anyone want to guess what every single meeting I’ve had since has been about?

The U.S. is going to run Venezuela now?

I’m angry. I’m particularly angry that I expect everyone to grumble a little bit and then go back to pretending we’ll be able to vote these traitors out in the next election with no other action necessary.

Day 3: Firelight

Having firelight be the theme for day 3 of the 12 Days of Winter Wonder was convenient after the power went out at 1 a.m. and didn’t come back until 8 this evening.

This is a work in progress, but it looks cute with the candle light. Would I recommend stitching by candle light? I would not.

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Cozy

Day 2 of the 12 Days of Winter Wonder is cozy.

When Ally moved home earlier this year, she came with two cats. (She shares custody of them with her best friend.) Neptune more moved into my lap than into our home, however. While Neptune sleeps in my lap, his brother Beau is often snuggled near my feet under the blanket I drape over myself. When I think of “cozy”, I can’t help but think of the hours spent each day with fuzzballs keeping my warm.

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Frost

I thought it might be fun to participate with the 12 Days of Winter Wonder photo challenge. Portland hasn’t been below freezing once this fall, so of course the first prompt would be frost.

This photo represents a happier part of a stressful winter day.

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